It’s no secret that new mamas often find themselves under a lot of pressure to regain their pre-baby figures as soon as possible postpartum.
Sometimes that pressure comes from society, like in the form of glossy magazine pictures of (yes, probably airbrushed and Photoshopped) celebrities who seemingly “bounced back” physically within minutes after childbirth. Then again, sometimes we moms put that pressure on ourselves, hoping impatiently to fit into our pre-maternity pants on the way home from the hospital, or hoping to escape the uncomfortable sensation of not feeling like ourselves in our squishy, unfamiliar new forms.
But Charmaine Daudu, fashion blogger and new mom to one-month-old Zend, has breathed some fresh air into this conversation via her Instagram account, and mothers everywhere are loving it.
At one week postpartum, a time when many new moms are still afraid to even look in the mirror, Daudu was posting side-by-side selfies.
Plenty of first-time mothers are shocked (and not in a good way) at how very still-pregnant they look for the first few months (or longer).
But Daudu was all about her new look.
First of all, she’s able to make us laugh about the fact that we really do low-key want to strangle those people whose “one week ‘after body’ is ‘better’ than [our] before body” (right after we finish that tub of ice cream, of course). And that’s no easy feat!
But she doesn’t stop there.
She goes on to point out that it’s okay to be inspired by those people, but “if you’re comparing your after to someone when you didn’t even have the same before, you are already setting yourself up for disappointment.”
Superhero, for sure!
And if moms weren’t already in love with this lady, the idea of referring to baby weight as “extra armor” will 100% put them over the edge.
She wraps up with some more inspiration.
A little new “body art” for my extra new “body armor?”
Yes please, I like the sound of that way more than calling them pudgy stretch marks!
Daudu offers up more wisdom (and laughs) in her next belly update.
After announcing that baby Zen’s umbilical stump had fallen off in a familiar, bittersweet tone (I think only a mother can understand the concept of feeling oddly sentimental about something so gross) she reiterates, “I’m not in any rush to get a flat tummy overnight, I’m really enjoying the gradual changes as it’s all pretty fascinating to me…and honestly, I think the slow shrinking belly is much more forgiving on my skin.”
As for dealing with stretch marks, preggo acne, and round bellies, Daudu says, “I do believe it’s mostly genetics and just another example of how different we all are. No need to feel badly if your results aren’t the same as someone else, and never believe that anyone has everything “easy.” We all have our different struggles, but your outlook can make a world of difference. so while I play connect the dots with my preggo acne and patty cake with my lil belly, please know that I feel great in my skin even on the days that I don’t recognize myself.”